New Years can bring out feelings of new beginnings and opportunities to strive towards new goals. While these feelings can quickly dissolve into moments of frustrations if those goals are not properly set. While it's important to implement goals for your ambitions this year, is is equally important in understanding the foundation that a good goal comes from. Let's take a look at a few tips to making it a year you achieved the goals you have been meaning to obtain!
Before You Begin, a Word Of Caution: The Stockdale Paradox
Jim Stockdale was a POW in the Vietnam war for 8 years. During his time as a captive, he was tortured 20 times and given no real hope of ever getting out. He eventually did and when he was asked what was the difference between those that survived and those that didn't, he replied with something that no one saw coming.
He responded with, “They were the ones who said, ‘We’re going to be out by Christmas.’ And Christmas would come, and Christmas would go. Then they’d say, ‘We’re going to be out by Easter.’ And Easter would come, and Easter would go. And then Thanksgiving, and then it would be Christmas again. And they died of a broken heart.”
Although you want to have hope in what you are striving for, it is important to have the foresight to see problems that can arise and the strength to endure them. I love "Big Hairy Audacious Goals" as author Jim Collins likes to say but with those goals comes the wisdom to know that it won't be easy. So choose your goals that scare you a bit but know the work ahead won't be easy. Now let's dive into some tips that will help get you to those goals.
Tip #1: Create Process Goals
Having a daily navigation to your ultimate goal will allow you to slowly but surely make your way towards it. For example, if you wanted to lose weight this year, think of one thing every day that you can do that will help you get to losing weight. This tactic is done by legendary comedian Jerry Seinfeld. Check it out here.
Tip #2: Make Your Goals Measurable and On Deadlines
By not having numbers to help you know if you are reaching your goal, it will be hard to see any progress. For that matter, it will be easy to give up on your goals if you do not give yourself some sort of deadline in achieving them. For example, losing weight is not as specific as saying you want to lose 10 pounds by losing one pound for the next two and a half months. This gives you "checkpoints" to see how you are doing on your way to your overall goal of losing weight. This then can allow you to make adjustments to keep you on track.
Tip #3: Enjoy The Process
Everyone wants to improve their lives in one way or another. Let it be in their relationships, health, career or their tennis game, it won't happen unless you can embrace the challenges that you need to overcome to make those goals a reality. This may make your priorities change when you pursue such goals. Have some foresight in mind when you write down your goals for the year. The sacrifices in your time and money are just a few examples of what to keep in mind when you are ready to tackle your goals for 2019.
I leave you with this quote by Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius, "What is In the way becomes the way." Find out what is between you and making your goals and that will guide you to what you need to do to achieve them.
Best of luck! Want a more thorough guide to making your goals? Check out this video for more tips!